Okay so I’m not sure if this is going to be a weekly thing or not, but it’s definitely happening this week. Today is going to be used for something I saw that has got me thinking. It’s something that I want to weigh in on or get your opinion on, just something that got us talking. So here we go…
This week everyone in THE WORLD saw Kim Kardashian post yet another nude selfie. Congratulations Kim, you’ve got a gorgeous body. We all know that you are very proud of it and that’s great for you! What got me thinking though was when I heard her reaction to what Bette Midler said about her. Bette’s quote was basically “If Kim K. wants us to see a part of her body that we haven’t seen yet she needs to swallow the camera”. I thought it very funny. I didn’t find it offensive or accusatory. Just stating a point of view. But that sparked the outrage and Kim K. again tried to blow up the internet. She maybe taking classes from Kanye I’m not sure, but she put Bette (maybe other people too I really wasn’t paying attention) on blast, talking about how much money she had, how she has never done drugs or been arrested so she is not a bad mom if she wants to post nude selfies, yadda yadda. This is what got me though.
I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me. And I hope that through this platform I have been given, I can encourage the same empowerment for girls and women all over the world.
This was her response to I guess what people are saying about her. I’m not sure that I agree with her. I am glad that she feels empowered by her body. But is it a display of empowerment to be naked on social media for over 1.7 million people to click like (and Lord knows how many others just viewed, I know my teenage son did and he didn’t click like) or is it more seeking attention? This photo that she posted was from a year and a half ago, it was not a recent photo, which she acknowledged. So it is not a current picture of her body, does that mean that she feels empowered by the body she had a year and a half ago pre-second child or are we to assume that she is empowered by her body now, but just didn’t feel like taking that picture??
When my daughter was in high school and trying to dress provocatively I remember having a conversation with her about how she didn’t need a man who was only interested in her for her body. That women are to be valued by what is on the inside, her morals, her values, her brain and her intellect, her sense of humor, her grace, her resilience and so on. So I have a hard time with someone who is so in the spotlight putting this out there and saying it is to empower herself or women. I’m sorry Kim, I don’t need you to empower my daughter to put naked pictures of herself on the internet. That may be okay for you, but you have a responsibility when you are in the public eye and whether we like it or not you are a role model. Our kids want bodies like you (hell I want a body like you), but I am old enough to know the reality is that you spend more in a day than I make in a year on making your body look the way that it does.
I’ve also been teaching my son that women are to be valued. We are not a piece of meat. We are more than just our curves. I want my son to grow up respecting women for their intellect, their strength. I want him to be appreciative of a woman who can run her own business, who can speak her mind, who he can have an intelligent conversation with. We are strong. Sometimes we are mothers and fathers at the same time, we are working two or three jobs to make ends meet. We are raising kids on our own, doing the laundry, do the chores, doing the cooking, the cleaning, changing flat tires, taking the kids to the doctor when they are sick, cleaning poopy diapers and vomit on a daily basis. Not to mention we can give birth! We are WAY more than just our naked bodies.
You know what I would love to see Kim? I would love to see you transfer some of that $83 million you got from your app to a worthy cause. Really any cause. Set the example for our younger generation that they need think more about how to help others rather than helping themselves. I hear a lot about who you are wearing or when you are wearing nothing, but I really hear very little about any charitable causes you contribute to. I’m sure you do, I just don’t hear about them. But I’ve certainly seen you naked.
At the end of the day, it is your body. It is your life. You absolutely are able to live it however you see fit. I just take issue with encouraging other women to “empower” themselves by taking off their clothes. Empower them by using their minds, getting an education, getting involved in their communities, why does it have to be empowering to take off their clothes.
So empowerment or attention seeking? I’m not sure, where do you stand? I really would love to hear.